Insights: Don’t put your feet into other people’s shoes

Famous Artists Gallery | Lou Shibai, a native of Liuyang, Hunan, specializes in painting. His paintings are concise and full of vitality.

In the journey of life, not everyone goes to the same place.

As the saying goes, "Don't put your feet in other people's shoes."

It is true. Different environments make it difficult to empathize with others; different experiences make it difficult to fully understand others.

It is a kind of upbringing not to comment on other people's lives with your own standards and not to evaluate other people's words and deeds.

There is such a story:

The two men came to a field and saw an old farmer carrying water from a distant river for irrigation. There were several wells nearby.

One person said: "How stupid! There are obviously more energy-saving methods but they are not used."

At this time, the old farmer came over and sat by the field to rest. He said to them, "Don't think I'm tired now. If the well water is used up, the crops will suffer when the dry season comes."

After hearing this, the two admired the old farmer's foresight, but at the same time, they felt ashamed of what they had said.

The universe is vast and boundless, and what a person can see and know is always limited.

If you always define other people's words and deeds from your own perspective, it will most likely only reflect your own shallowness.

A truly wise person does not judge others, does not make irresponsible comments on words and deeds, and always reflects on himself. He will be respected by others and his life path will become smoother and smoother.

Famous Artists Gallery | Lou Shibai

Not blaming others for their mistakes is a sign of character.

People who truly have vision understand the essence behind things and have insight into the laws governing the development of events.

Therefore, we will not blame others for our mistakes, nor will we blame others casually.

There was a general who, while leading his troops in battle, discovered that his horse was easily frightened and nearly fell off several times.

Back at the camp, everyone blamed the groom for his negligence.

The general thought for a moment and said to the groom, "I won't blame you, but why is my horse so easily frightened?"

The horseman thought back for a moment and said, "The horses were fed the usual feed, but yesterday's drinking water was taken from the local well."

After hearing this, the general ordered people to fetch water and found that the enemy had poisoned the well. Fortunately, the discovery was made in time and no big mistake was made.

Right and wrong are just superficial phenomena. Being able to see the essence through the phenomena is a person's wisdom.

People with broad minds often forgive others; people with noble virtues always look at the long-term.

A visionary person does not use his own cognition to blame others for their mistakes. In this way, he can return to the essence of things and solve problems.

Famous Artists Gallery | Lou Shibai

Not interfering in other people's decision-making is a kind of wisdom.

The most taboo thing when people get along with each other is not knowing the boundaries and using their own experience to interfere with other people's decision-making.

In the end, not only will the relationship end in a bad way, but you will also find yourself in trouble.

A writer once said: "No matter how familiar friends are, they should always maintain a sense of propriety. If you think you are familiar with them, you will end up creating a gap."

Different people have different standpoints and make different choices. The more familiar we are with each other, the easier it is to forget the limits.

In life, whether it is with close relatives or friends, learn to respect differences, be tactful when speaking, leave room for maneuver when doing things, and do not cross the boundaries when getting along with others.

A philosopher once said: "On the journey of life, not everyone will go to the same place."

In the exam paper of life, everyone gets different questions. There is no need to use your own standards to correct other people's answers.

In life, do not easily judge, do not arbitrarily criticize, and do not interfere excessively. Be true to your heart and reflect on yourself. Only in this way can you live a free and comfortable life.

For the rest of our lives, may we wear our own shoes, walk our own way, enjoy the beautiful scenery, and experience all kinds of human life.

Anchor | Zhang Daxin

Author: Mumu Source: Laozi Tao Te Ching (ID: LZDDJ-1)

Auditor: Yu Weiya

Producer: Yang Xia, Wu Weiling

Editors: Wang Yixuan, Li Yongxi, He Li

Art Design: Zhao Danyang

Interns: Wu Shiyu, Song Shufei

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