How to deal with low self-esteem

Inferiority complex is quite common in life. From a psychological point of view, it is a kind of self-denial. It means that if one fails to meet the rules and standards set by oneself, one will have negative evaluations, leading to depression and pessimism, and even causing some physiological changes. Therefore, when inferiority complex occurs, one must adjust the psychological emotions in time. If it is more serious, one can see a psychologist.

Treat failure correctly

Due to lack of knowledge and experience, young people often cannot find appropriate ways to relieve their inferiority and frustration when they fail. As a result, a vicious cycle occurs where failure leads to inferiority, and inferiority leads to failure. You know, it is impossible to have smooth sailing in the long journey of life, but setbacks and failures are inevitable. If you keep a normal mind about it, you won't have big fluctuations in your emotions. When summarizing his successful work experience, the famous British professor Thomson summarized it in two words, that is, "failure."

Change subjective attitude

If we cannot change things, we can change our attitude towards them. The hurt a person suffers from what happened is not as serious as his view on the matter. The thing itself is not important; what is important is people’s attitude towards it. When your attitude changes, your perspective on things changes.

Increased confidence

In everything, you must have a belief that everything will succeed, have full confidence in yourself, and be optimistic about the future development of events. Be confident. Confidence is the most effective way to eliminate inferiority and promote success. We should pay attention to promptly grasp the seeds of self-confidence, clear the rubble of inferiority, and give it a piece of moist soil - because self-confidence can be enhanced and sublimated through repeated small successes. On the basis of self-confidence, establish an "ambition level" that suits your actual situation. "Aspiration level" refers to an individual's psychological need to achieve something to a certain extent. The "ambition level" should not be set too low or too high. If it is set too low, it will not inspire enthusiasm for struggle and will instead cause laziness; if it is set too high, it will exceed one's own ability, and failure to achieve it will easily lead to a "sense of failure." Therefore, the "ambition level" must be in line with one's actual conditions.

Learn to enjoy the process

Enjoy the process and make every day wonderful. Life is a process, not a result. Life is a bracket. The left bracket is birth, and the right bracket is death. What we have to do is to fill the brackets with beautiful and colorful things and good mood. At the end, the brackets will end. There will always be dark sides in this world. When a ray of sunlight shines down from the sky, there will always be places that it cannot reach. If you only focus on the darkness and complain that the world is dark, that is your own choice. Competition is cruel, but people still need to be happy, so we must learn to survive in the cracks of contradictions.

Play to your strengths

"No gold is pure, no man is perfect." Everyone has his or her own strengths and weaknesses. We must learn to make a fair and comprehensive evaluation of ourselves, neither complacent nor self-pitying. We should not focus on our own weaknesses and carry a heavy burden. We must be good at exploring and developing our own advantages to compensate for our own shortcomings.

Control yourself and don't be stubborn

The only thing we can control is ourselves, and we should not base our happiness on the behavior of others. If you base your happiness on the behavior of others, you will create fear. Some people are always worried about the future. Don't worry about it. If the thing you are worried about cannot be controlled by you, just let it go. We can only consider things that are within our ability. We should do our best within our ability and let it go if we cannot.