Pretentious, emotionally unstable? No! Stop scolding! We are just sensitive to order...

We all live with social evaluations and are influenced by interpersonal pressures. In order to fit in and be consistent with others, we use these evaluations to calibrate our behaviors, attitudes, and values.

This is not wrong in itself. However, if we rely solely on the evaluation of society, authority, parents or peers to understand ourselves, and only make remote diagnoses through "biased labels", there may sometimes be a risk of inaccurate self-perception.

Facing these external voices, you may doubt yourself, feel sad, depressed, or even lose heart... This article is just a kind reminder: Don't ignore your own feelings. You may not be A, but B. Even B may not be able to simply and crudely define you.

Please embrace yourself again with love, acceptance and tenderness. "Variety is the source of happiness." Perhaps from another perspective, you are not a "problem that needs to be improved," but a "treasure that is not placed in the right place."

Source: CCTV.com

Review | Fan Chunlei Associate Researcher, Institute of Psychology, Chinese Academy of Sciences

Editor: Zhong Yanping

Proofread by Xu Lailinlin