Is your child always procrastinating? The real reason is not as simple as you think

The child is too slow, I have to push him! !

In fact, there is a positive motivation behind every negative behavior. So what are the positive motivations behind children's dawdling? In summary, there are probably these 5 types. Let's take a look!

The psychological needs behind procrastination

01 “I want more attention”

Children may feel lonely, neglected, or need more company, so they will use dawdling to attract their parents' attention.

02 “I want a mission that fits me”

Children may not be interested in certain tasks or activities, feeling that they are too difficult, boring, or unchallenging, and therefore express their dissatisfaction or resistance by dawdling.

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03 “I want to do something more meaningful or valuable”

If children do not see the importance or meaning of the task, they will lack motivation.

04 “I have no concept of time, I need your help”

Because children do not have a full understanding of time, they are unable to judge the urgency of the task.

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05. “I want more control”

Some children want to complete tasks at their own pace and in their own way and have more autonomy and independence, so they will use procrastination to seek control.

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Of course, the above reasons may vary depending on the child’s age, personality and specific circumstances. Parents need to observe and understand patiently in order to better meet their children’s psychological needs.

In short, never underestimate your child's ambition. Parents must understand and believe in their children. In the next issue, we will share how to help children stop procrastinating.